Overthinking is often not considered to be part of a trauma response. It’s deeply connected to hypervigilance and often tied to anxiety and post-traumatic stress…

For most of us possibilities are not something we ever seriously consider. We tend to live with thoughts of things not working out for us as opposed to the opposite: things working out well…

Do you ever find yourself struggling to let go of a situation? Do you ever find yourself uncomfortable with not having control or insight into what happens next? If the answer...

Looking back on your past as a survivor is never easy. The true gift, though, lies in the learning and the wisdom you’ve gained along the way, usually without even...

For some reason I can never understand, it is often considered lazy or unproductive to rest. This is unhelpful and old school thinking, especially when you consider that as survivors...

The known facts about being triggered are these: We don't know when they're going to occur, or how they will occur. This means is that we cannot prepare for that which we...

Many people consider that mind games are something that are done to us and that we are being manipulated by others. No one ever considers the bigger truth: we play...

The sex lives of survivors is rarely discussed. There are many reasons as to why, but it’s time to look at how the abuse impacted you. Sexual activity as an adult will...

To be honest when I think of people making New Year's resolutions I always silently shudder. To my mind, if you wanted to do something you would have already made...

Getting through Xmas, can be an overwhelming ask for us as Survivors. While many people experience joy and celebration during this time, we can feel the opposite through difficult emotions, painful...

As survivors of child sexual abuse, it is widely accepted that we were controlled through grooming whether it was manipulation, flattery, violence, or other ways, simply so the abuser could...

If you are deciding on how you wish to confront your abuser, please be aware that as emotions will be running at an all-time high, deciding something of this importance...

I dedicate this blog to Malcolm Richards. It’s almost unbelievable how difficult trying to get somewhere with your abuse can be. From hoping that people will understand what it is you have...

Ever wondered why you struggle with certain areas in your life? It could be when it comes to speaking out, or joining in, or having confidence, even feeling connected or even...

Your memories emerging as your child becomes the exact age you were when the abuse occurred, is more common than you might think. As such, it is likely to be...

In the process of recovering from your abuse you will notice the impacts on you. Though these differ from survivor to survivor, there is one that is not often recognised, let...

Wanting your voice heard can sometimes be buried deep within, and therefore not always obvious, you were, after all, taught it wasn’t safe to use it. Probably, anytime you tried you...

Every survivor everywhere has been conditioned to believe that the sexual abuse they suffered as a child, was their fault. That they somehow ‘made it happen’, so if that is...

A belief held by many is that actions speak louder than words, I don’t think anyone would dispute that, but I want to take it a step further. What happens...

People believe that being held captive, is being held against their will, usually through a physical restraint, and then locked into a room from which they cannot escape. (Think any...