​Perception is interesting because whatever we perceive something to be becomes our reality. Not necessarily other people’s, just ours. We seem able to look at the exact same situation and come away with a different view on it totally believing we have the only view that matters, in other words, the right view. So how is that possible, how can perception vary so widely between people, groups and countries?
 

​I was reading Eckhart Tolle’s A New Earth the other day, and one line in particular stood out; ‘Treat the situation you are in as if you had chosen it’. His thinking was that we might manage it differently if we came from a place of acceptance and openness.

​Sometimes we have no idea of the impact we have. Sometimes we can tell straight away, we’ve just got it wrong, and other times we have no idea. We don’t always understand why.
But at least we’ve said what we wanted to, right?
Wrong.

​The problem with things ending is that they don’t check in with us first. If they had bothered, they would find we’re not interested right now, thanks anyway. We like to control who we say goodbye to, end a relationship with or even how we get to share final moments of a loved one’s time on this earth.

​I think kindness is underestimated, it has a power beyond what we could possibly imagine and an impact that spreads far and wide.

​Like most of us starting the new year, I decided that setting a vision would be helpful and set me on the path for a new improved version of myself. 

​Is seen as having strength in the face of hardship, being able to withstand the challenges that come our way with fortitude and determination. Sometimes this happens easily, sometimes not so much.

We all have it, we just don’t realise it. Power presents itself in many forms every day. We have the power to say no to someone, we have the power to be kind to someone, we also have the power to take control of something.
The uniqueness of power is that it can be as gentle as a slight breeze or as powerful as a full-blown gale. How we use it, how we define it, tells us more of who we are.

​I’m not sure I like tolerance very much, probably because I overdo it. A bit of a default position of mine that leaves me feeling taken advantage of and then resentful. Interestingly though, I would always choose tolerance over intolerance due to the impact the latter has.
We see it on the news every day shown through the behaviour of others, leaving us reeling in shock and outrage - until the next story is aired.

​Can leave us feeling left out and excluded from people and situations we wanted to be part of. At its worst we feel miserable and lonely, and at its best we decide that person is not worth suffering for. Interestingly, we can even find ourselves building up quite the scenario by weighing up every incident or conversation that’s occurred and creating proof a high court jury would find hard to refute. Hands up if you’ve ever done that?  The problem being it just makes the whole thing worse. There is nothing positive about feeling rejected, but it’s part of how we treat each other and seems to be here to stay
What causes us to feel rejected and why?