A younger friend of mine asked me how to stay positive when everything indicates feeling the opposite. When life feels like it’s all just negative and yuk, including certain people in it.
It’s so hard sometimes to see anything positive in situations that hurt or push us to the nth degree but stay positive we must.
Because we’re meant to do more than just survive life, we’re meant to enjoy it. We can’t afford to fall into the river of sadness and overwhelm and get sucked under. We’re worth more than that. Our lives are meant to encompass happiness, and if they’re not we need to figure out how we can change it, so they are.
All too often we cannot control what is happening to us, it can be situations and events outside of our sphere of influence, usually impacting ourselves or people we love. We panic, can overreact and our peace of mind gets flung outside and ignored, while we become more stressed and anxious.
Totally understandable reactions, but not overly helpful.
What’s the best way to manage it, or even change our thinking around it?
One theory that resonates is that we have more power than we know or can ever access, and the trick is unlocking it and bringing it into our lives every single day.
If it sounds difficult it’s because we ‘ve put the key somewhere safe and can’t remember where.
In my life I have had so much to bear, so many Tsunamis if you will and I’m still standing. Don’t get me wrong, often I have fallen flat into the swirling waters of despair and depression and come up soaking wet and gulping for air.
The thing I realised was keeping me down and trapped was not the situation, but my thoughts about the situation. I couldn’t control what was happening, nor did I like it, but I could choose to approach it by accepting it was in my life and I was meant to learn something from it. Something that just might help me in some way. In other words: I could choose to see it differently and climb out of it whenever I wanted. Or not.
But I had to choose.
Then I had to do it.
And I didn’t always know how.
Eventually after making my life much worse instead of better I gave in to feeling powerless and handed it over to my Angels. They heard me. They stepped up in full regalia, white wings fully fluffed, and halos shining brightly to rescue me and show me the way.
Apparently, I needed to:
So, this is how I now ‘do’ life. When it throws me a curve ball I generally resist, (I know I’m only human) but eventually when I get over myself, I do ask my Angels for help, I do recognise I can’t control what I can’t control, and I look for the reason it is there. If I can’t see it initially, I know it will come somehow. To be fair, I don’t always want to face the hard stuff, but it likes to hang around with me much like a guest who’s overstayed her welcome.
I do find myself laughing at myself as I am often surprised at how easily and quickly, I can sink into ‘sweating the small stuff’ and that is so not who I am anymore or want to be.
It is an ongoing challenge, and I don’t always get it right, but I feel I’m winning as the more awareness I give it the more I am seeing it before it derails me and takes away my peace of mind.
One last thing, I have to love and accept me in all my flawed state. I have to rate who I am otherwise I will default into second guessing and doubting the person I know myself to be, which isn’t helpful or ok. So, now I have that figured out, it might be worth considering:
Who are you
Can you love who you are
Your Angels sure do
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