I’m not sure I like tolerance very much, probably because I overdo it. A bit of a default position of mine that leaves me feeling taken advantage of and then resentful. Interestingly though, I would always choose tolerance over intolerance due to the impact the latter has.
We see it on the news every day shown through the behaviour of others, leaving us reeling in shock and outrage - until the next story is aired.
Can leave us feeling left out and excluded from people and situations we wanted to be part of. At its worst we feel miserable and lonely, and at its best we decide that person is not worth suffering for. Interestingly, we can even find ourselves building up quite the scenario by weighing up every incident or conversation that’s occurred and creating proof a high court jury would find hard to refute. Hands up if you’ve ever done that? The problem being it just makes the whole thing worse. There is nothing positive about feeling rejected, but it’s part of how we treat each other and seems to be here to stay
What causes us to feel rejected and why?
Is a common reaction when stress is present. It has us second guessing ourselves and becoming uptight about life in general. It also has the questionable honour of emerging as a widespread epidemic. At its worst, anxiety seriously controls how we live our lives.
The issue is the normalising nature of it, resulting in feeling anxious every time we are slightly stressed. We get used to it, identify with it and start to embody it.