I was talking to a friend the other day about how difficult it is to deal with people who tend to ‘Go Low’ in their behaviour.
Whether we know it or not, we have boundaries with every single person we interact with. We decide who we let into our inner circle, outer circle or not at all. It can be decided on instinct or simply on how we feel in any given moment.
Three years ago I began the journey of writing this book 'On Angels Wings - My flight from trauma to grace', and now it is done. Its here people, therefore a celebration is in order. Quick aside, for those that know me well, I already have a gold medal in this department as would celebrate the sun shining if I could.
While watching a show on Netflix where a woman appeared to be gliding across a tight wire high up off the ground, I realised two things: I don’t like heights and my balance is nowhere to be seen.
Timing is interesting because we don't always understand why something is happening the way it is at the time it is. Usually we are impatiently expecting a situation to occur when we want it to and we either push or try to control the situation so that everything appears in front of us in the exact way we require it.
Perception is interesting because whatever we perceive something to be becomes our reality. Not necessarily other people’s, just ours. We seem able to look at the exact same situation and come away with a different view on it totally believing we have the only view that matters, in other words, the right view. So how is that possible, how can perception vary so widely between people, groups and countries?
I was reading Eckhart Tolle’s A New Earth the other day, and one line in particular stood out; ‘Treat the situation you are in as if you had chosen it’. His thinking was that we might manage it differently if we came from a place of acceptance and openness.
Sometimes we have no idea of the impact we have. Sometimes we can tell straight away, we’ve just got it wrong, and other times we have no idea. We don’t always understand why.
But at least we’ve said what we wanted to, right?
The problem with things ending is that they don’t check in with us first. If they had bothered, they would find we’re not interested right now, thanks anyway. We like to control who we say goodbye to, end a relationship with or even how we get to share final moments of a loved one’s time on this earth.